Sex and Love(Part II) Are We Afraid To Let Our Fairy Tale Happen?

Ever since I was a child, I had this fairy tale idea of the way love was supposed to be, as most young girls do. I read often and most of the movies, even the cartoons, reinforced this idea of love coming into your life as if by some magical force. We want that prince charming that the universe made especially for us, to come into our world on his white horse. It is a great story, but can it be our reality? Is there someone out there that the universe has created especially for us? As a young adult, this idea still intrigues me. I am a big fan of movies like Sleepless in Seattle and Love Jones. Although both are just movies, they gave me a more realistic look at how love works while still having the concept of an enchanted love or fated lovers, as opposed to the Cinderellas and other fairy tale movies of my childhood. I guess you can say, I haven't lost hope in my prince charming. I realize that I am rare and that most women tend to give up on this notion.

Anita Baker is one of the best female R&B voacalists of our time. I was in an Anita Baker mood and downloaded all of her songs. The first song I downloaded, was "Fairy Tales." In this song she sings about the flawless prince charming fairy tale her mom instilled in her as a child opposed to her more flawed and bitter reality as an adult. The line, "The story ends, like stories do, reality steps into view. No longer living life like paradise, " is her realization that fairy tales do not happen in real life. Anita's problem in this song is one shared by most women, we are built up and ready for this magical fairy tale love to happen to us, and we get let down because life isn't quite like a fairy tale. As a result of being let down, we also start to lose hope in any type of love at all. Don't give up ladies! Don't lose faith in love. Love is a beautiful thing created by God, for us to partake in. Be open to it and the author of your own fairy tale.~

Sex and Love(Part I) The Quest for Satisfaction

At the age of 21 in 2005, what does sex and love mean to my peers and myself? Is it the free love of the sixties and seventies? Although most wouldn't mind that, it is near impossible with the slew of STDs that exist today and the prime fear of all, HIV/AIDS. So, are these two entities, sex and love, independent of each other or do they flow together like a strand of DNA? The majority of us are trying to get instant or momentary gratification and usually don't require love or like as a standard of the sexual partner we choose. This can be a problem, but who am I to judge? I think as young people and many young people before us, we are losing ourselves in this search for satisfaction. WE go on this quest for many things, and get confused by sex. We are all searching for Love, Companionship, Friendship, and Loyalty. In the end we may only get a few minutes of good sex, if that.