"He's Different"....

What is it that causes women, when entering a new relationship, to say variations of the grave phrase "But he's different..." Scarred by some previous failed relationships in which you were underappreciated, treated like a dude, verbally abused, etc,..you want to marry the next man who holds the door for you at the supermarket.

I was just having this conversation with my girl Yjarvoe this weekend. We are all so quick to say "He's different" in the first days or weeks of meeting someone new. If you think back to the beginning stages of those failed relationships, you will realize that Jerk number 1,2, or 3 was" different" too. He was actually trying to win you over at that time. The problem is he got too darn comfortable when he got you and started acting a fool. I've been guilty of this hurried assumption and crushed when Mr. Different changed into Dr. Jerk.

Dudes are like a highschool basketball player, who surpasses the necessity of college basketball only to stink it up in the NBA. They put all of the emphasis on the preparation of fufilling, what I'm sure is a lifetime goal, of being drafted into the NBA. They failed to realize that there was more work needed to actually succeed in the NBA. They got complacent. BIG mistake. In the same way, there is work that goes into keeping a woman beyond winning her interest--if keeping her is what he wants. And ladies, if he actually does this, he just might be, different.